Today is August 26 2009, which is coincidentally the day of Chinese Valentine Day. So happy valentine's day for everyone who sees this =D
Also, today, it has been more than 5 months since my last post. I wonder if everyone has given up on my blog because i have been putting off writing it for so long.
Today i decided to come to this page because i remembered something i said a long time ago. It had something to do with smiling.
I remembered how many times in my life i had stopped smiling. Or at least the major events that made me not feel like smiling. Even in one of the prior posts i implied that i would be able to smile regardless of what was happening at that time and yet i failed.
Today, i am smiling again. Of cause i have also been smiling a lot the past few months but in this case, it is one of those special situations again.
In the blink of an eye, more than half of my friends are in relationships already. If not, they are down the path towards one. My point? I'm happy for them. This in turn brings me to quote something a friend said a couple of weeks back - "and then there was one". When he said that, he seemed a million miles away from his own story, today, he seems just within arms reach of it. It is now just left to how he decides and fate thus leaving that quote in my hands now.
Coming back to the smiling thing, i think i have developed a really bad habit. In the past, people always complained i never smiled enough. I took that advice and decided to smile. Guess what happened? Yep, i can't stop smiling anymore - not when i'm depressed, not when i'm sad, not when i'm lonely and perhaps, even not when i'm crying (i'm not sure about it actually, coz i haven't cried yet)
Along with that habit came another - "don't worry" or as i like to say it in japanese "dai jo bu" or in chinese, "放心啦". I'm saying this so much, there have been a few that are complaining i'm starting to hide my true feelings and thoughts. Maybe they are right, afterall, lately i feel like i don't want to bother or trouble anyone anymore. Everyone has their own troubles, and i don't feel like adding more for them.
I have a feeling with the paragraph above, people are going to want to kill me again... Better start running~~ haha~~
Anyways, till next time and don't worry about me.
Lai Jian Wei
3.44pm
26 August 2009
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Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Leaving...
Of late i realized something really interesting about myself - i've been putting off writing my blog for a long time adi... The last time i wrote was, well, before i left Brisbane. Now, i'm writing again. This time, will be before i go back to Brisbane.
Actually, throughout these few months, i have composed a few posts, just that i have never gotten around to finish writing them. The reason? Mood swings XD
But yala, throughout these few months i have been having a lot of ups and downs (please don't ask, don't really feel like talking about them). Currently my mood has reached the stage where i don't want to go back to Brisbane.... That is a long story la, to make it simple, let's just say being away then coming back made me realize i treasured a lot of things here and that the moment i go back to Aussie, i lose a lot of these things....
For a friend, yes you were right. I really really did enjoy myself back here in Malaysia. At the very least, i was distracted a lot by my darlings and friends a like. Sometimes i wonder, is it because i went overseas that i having a lot of attention from all my friends? Or is it just because i'm having a bout of really good jodoh this year? Haha... Either way, i'm not complaining. It's been a wonderful holiday for me (albeit the boredom of sitting alone at home doing nothing la...)
Friends are a wonderful thing. Somehow, they just have a knack of showing up at the right time and making problems miraculously disappear (for the moment at least) or just provide you with a dose of "healthy" distraction....
Most importantly, friends help you without they themselves or even you realizing it. It's a kind of abstract thing, not something you can grasp immediately after you read this or if that light bulb of inspiration flashes in your head. Speaking on this... Can i ask for a moment of silence for a friend, Yun Chi that passed away on the 5th of February...
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...
...
...
...
Thank you
Like i was saying, she is a good example of this. Her passing, i believe has brought good a lot of people she once knew. Her passing was quite a sudden news to many of us, it just reflected on the fragility of life as we know it. At least for me, it made me realize that somethings are just unexpected. I'm sure many people have at some point in their lives, contemplated the fact "what would happen if suddenly my friend or a family member dies? Hmm..."
Contemplating and trying to prepare yourself mentally is one thing, when it actually happens, it is a totally different story all together... I admit, i'm not really very close to Yun Chi, but she is the first of my friends that has actually left us, forever... Her spirit may still be close to us, but she will always be an ethereal presence from now on... (haih...)
After paying my last respects, i was very angry for a moment. At myself. Why? I realized that i am a man surrounded by a lot of friends and i really mean A LOT. Yes, many of them i could say are casual acquaintances, some slightly better friends. Then of coz there are my darlings, beloveds and kids. And to think with so many people around me, i always complain i'm lonely. Worst still, i don't even bother keep in touch with many of these people. Only saying hi when i meet them and then have a few short sentences of a conversation and that's it.
As the anger slowly simmered off, sadness took it's place. It is very true the saying, "You may be best friends this year, very good friends the next year, close friends the following, and just acquaintances after that." When i look back, i do hold a lot of regrets, some of my once best friends when i see them today all i can bring out of me to say is just "hello" or "how have you been lately?" I do blame myself, but i also do realize that we just cannot have time for everybody as much as we try, as much as we want to...
Sad isn't it?
Lai Jian Wei
2.36pm
15 February 2009
Actually, throughout these few months, i have composed a few posts, just that i have never gotten around to finish writing them. The reason? Mood swings XD
But yala, throughout these few months i have been having a lot of ups and downs (please don't ask, don't really feel like talking about them). Currently my mood has reached the stage where i don't want to go back to Brisbane.... That is a long story la, to make it simple, let's just say being away then coming back made me realize i treasured a lot of things here and that the moment i go back to Aussie, i lose a lot of these things....
For a friend, yes you were right. I really really did enjoy myself back here in Malaysia. At the very least, i was distracted a lot by my darlings and friends a like. Sometimes i wonder, is it because i went overseas that i having a lot of attention from all my friends? Or is it just because i'm having a bout of really good jodoh this year? Haha... Either way, i'm not complaining. It's been a wonderful holiday for me (albeit the boredom of sitting alone at home doing nothing la...)
Friends are a wonderful thing. Somehow, they just have a knack of showing up at the right time and making problems miraculously disappear (for the moment at least) or just provide you with a dose of "healthy" distraction....
Most importantly, friends help you without they themselves or even you realizing it. It's a kind of abstract thing, not something you can grasp immediately after you read this or if that light bulb of inspiration flashes in your head. Speaking on this... Can i ask for a moment of silence for a friend, Yun Chi that passed away on the 5th of February...
...
...
...
...
...
Thank you
Like i was saying, she is a good example of this. Her passing, i believe has brought good a lot of people she once knew. Her passing was quite a sudden news to many of us, it just reflected on the fragility of life as we know it. At least for me, it made me realize that somethings are just unexpected. I'm sure many people have at some point in their lives, contemplated the fact "what would happen if suddenly my friend or a family member dies? Hmm..."
Contemplating and trying to prepare yourself mentally is one thing, when it actually happens, it is a totally different story all together... I admit, i'm not really very close to Yun Chi, but she is the first of my friends that has actually left us, forever... Her spirit may still be close to us, but she will always be an ethereal presence from now on... (haih...)
After paying my last respects, i was very angry for a moment. At myself. Why? I realized that i am a man surrounded by a lot of friends and i really mean A LOT. Yes, many of them i could say are casual acquaintances, some slightly better friends. Then of coz there are my darlings, beloveds and kids. And to think with so many people around me, i always complain i'm lonely. Worst still, i don't even bother keep in touch with many of these people. Only saying hi when i meet them and then have a few short sentences of a conversation and that's it.
As the anger slowly simmered off, sadness took it's place. It is very true the saying, "You may be best friends this year, very good friends the next year, close friends the following, and just acquaintances after that." When i look back, i do hold a lot of regrets, some of my once best friends when i see them today all i can bring out of me to say is just "hello" or "how have you been lately?" I do blame myself, but i also do realize that we just cannot have time for everybody as much as we try, as much as we want to...
Sad isn't it?
Lai Jian Wei
2.36pm
15 February 2009
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Today is a cloudy day....
Today is a cloudy day in Brisbane, and it is REALLY cloudy.... Not too mention cold(ughhh)....
I got up this morning cranky, depressed and sad.... The reason? Because i stopped being a vegetarian that's why. How many people still know what i mean by being vegetarian?
Some things in life are never easy. They take a lot of courage, determination and dedication. Me stopping to be a vegetarian is one of these things. And i had to choose one of the hardest dishes in the world to try and cook.
First of all, collecting ingredients is hard. Next the amount of skill required to cook is phenomenal. As of now i still have not found any reference materials or recipes. I'm doing this blindly, hoping that it will go right, praying lady luck is on my side. Lastly, for this dish to truly come out prefect and nice, i need divine intervention (a.k.a. The People Upstairs on my side).
I'm pretty sure some people will be going OMG now and wishing me best of luck etc. Let's just say, if i put the story down properly, people might be fainting this very moment. Similarly, many people might ask me, "If it's so hard and might not even work out in the end, why try in the first place?"
Answer is simple, if you want good food, of cause you must try and cook it right? I am the type of person that loves good food. Anyone that knows me long enough can bear witness to that, Plus plus, people are going to be very happy if this succeeds.
Enough of the cooking, anyway coming back.....
I got up being cranky and depressed. I hate it when that used to happen. I would be unable to study for the whole day and be extremely snappy towards people for the rest of the day. The worst part is, it somehow has a way of carrying itself over days at end. Making people so afraid of me for days and days.
"Oh sh*t" was the first thought i had when i woke up. I figured I'm going to have a lousy day ahead, not to mention my exams are just a few days away and i still need to study. Lunch certainly didn't go well either, spent an entire lunch not talking much. Talking so little until one of my friends went "Lai, say something already!!"
But, today I realized how much i have grown up.... I stayed focused, yay!! I shoved all my sorrow and depression aside and just put my heart down to study. Not only did i manage to a substantial amount of work done, that distraction cheered me up and made me realize that the problems i thought i had were not that big after all....
Now, I am a cheerful man. Ready to face up again to the daunting tasks before me, ready to take up that responsibility, ready to give it all my best again.
I am at peace with myself again.....
Lai Jian Wei
5.17pm
Sunday, 9th November 2008
p/s : you know something? I really feel like watching Lilo & Stitch now... Huh... But have to study la...
I got up this morning cranky, depressed and sad.... The reason? Because i stopped being a vegetarian that's why. How many people still know what i mean by being vegetarian?
Some things in life are never easy. They take a lot of courage, determination and dedication. Me stopping to be a vegetarian is one of these things. And i had to choose one of the hardest dishes in the world to try and cook.
First of all, collecting ingredients is hard. Next the amount of skill required to cook is phenomenal. As of now i still have not found any reference materials or recipes. I'm doing this blindly, hoping that it will go right, praying lady luck is on my side. Lastly, for this dish to truly come out prefect and nice, i need divine intervention (a.k.a. The People Upstairs on my side).
I'm pretty sure some people will be going OMG now and wishing me best of luck etc. Let's just say, if i put the story down properly, people might be fainting this very moment. Similarly, many people might ask me, "If it's so hard and might not even work out in the end, why try in the first place?"
Answer is simple, if you want good food, of cause you must try and cook it right? I am the type of person that loves good food. Anyone that knows me long enough can bear witness to that, Plus plus, people are going to be very happy if this succeeds.
Enough of the cooking, anyway coming back.....
I got up being cranky and depressed. I hate it when that used to happen. I would be unable to study for the whole day and be extremely snappy towards people for the rest of the day. The worst part is, it somehow has a way of carrying itself over days at end. Making people so afraid of me for days and days.
"Oh sh*t" was the first thought i had when i woke up. I figured I'm going to have a lousy day ahead, not to mention my exams are just a few days away and i still need to study. Lunch certainly didn't go well either, spent an entire lunch not talking much. Talking so little until one of my friends went "Lai, say something already!!"
But, today I realized how much i have grown up.... I stayed focused, yay!! I shoved all my sorrow and depression aside and just put my heart down to study. Not only did i manage to a substantial amount of work done, that distraction cheered me up and made me realize that the problems i thought i had were not that big after all....
Now, I am a cheerful man. Ready to face up again to the daunting tasks before me, ready to take up that responsibility, ready to give it all my best again.
I am at peace with myself again.....
Lai Jian Wei
5.17pm
Sunday, 9th November 2008
p/s : you know something? I really feel like watching Lilo & Stitch now... Huh... But have to study la...
Saturday, October 18, 2008
2 Months & 15 Days....
2 months & 15 days...
What about it?
That was my last blog entry.
In this period of time, some many things have happened. For one i made a lot of really great friends here already. Then at the same time, my semester is coming to an end now, i have a lot of assignments to finish as well as prepare for my finals. I am very nervous, after all I am in another country, not my own.
But the main reason for me being nervous is because of the subject I'm taking, Environmental Science. Why? Because i really really enjoy what I am learning. I really want to do well. I still remember telling my family and friends, if I am allowed to do something i really like, i will be able to excel in it. When i came over, everyone told me that i will do well. I'm now in a culture and setting that is more open to my style of study and more importantly I'm doing a topic which i truly have passion for.
Frankly, looking at how I'm coping so far, I am doing rather well. But some how i feel it is not enough. Yes, I'm getting High Distinctions (someone wants to kill me know when she finds out I'm saying this) but somehow I myself am not satisfied with my own performance. When i read my assignments and essays, i feel they nothing more than a beautiful orchestra of words that have no substance in it. Yet, when i receive it back, i get a compliment from my tutor on on a good job which i don't really feel i deserved very much.
Anyway...
On other matters, in this period my parents had also paid me a visit. For once in my life, I think I was really really happy to see them. Although I admit I'm not especially close with my parents, but seeing them for that few days really did cheer me up a lot. I guess is the reality of not having them by my side was getting to me. Initially, I would get very annoyed because i was not at home. I would want something to use (scissors for example) and suddenly realize that I was not at home and did not have them.
I think this is what they mean by becoming independent and looking after yourself. Time to grow up~~ Haha... Eh, but i must admit though, it has been a really interesting experience. I actually learned how to do a lot of shopping on my own, how to look for better products and settle issues with the bank etc. I am also very very grateful to my parents. Why? From young they made me do a lot of the things around the house and I used to be so annoyed by it. Now I am so so so so so so so so so so so so so happy because of that. I can do every chore that there is. I can even cook better than a lot of people here. =D
Coming back to friends....
I miss my darlings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss my kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss my friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok... Done screaming, now can talk adi.... I have been calling back some of my friends in Malaysia. Similarly, i have never been so happy to hear their voice and to be able to talk to them. My friends as well, damn funny la, i still remember one of them screaming "Jian Wei!!!!! So happy!!!!" and some others picking up the phone and being so polite going "Hello, may i know who is this?" which actually scared me. I never thought they could be so polite.
I miss the times that which come out and yum cha. I still have issues talking over IM and the phone la. I need to talk to people face to face to really be able to express myself. I also feel a more personal connection when talking like that. I can relate to them more. This has something to do with the body language. If i remember my number correctly, about 70 - 80% of communication is done subconsciously as body language. The rest of the communication is done by words. This is one reason i don't like to use SMS and chat to talk with people. Twice here in Australia i have upset a good friend due to misunderstanding in SMS and MSN. I'm really really sorry.... =(
Coming on to my friends in Australia, i meet some really great people. Not to mention we do a lot of silly things. Like playing computer over the college LAN network until 3am. We also have a lot of fun time debating over funny issues and talk random things. But two of them are on exchange and will be going back after this semester is over.... Feeling a bit sad thinking of it already. They have been great and wonderful friends all throughout these few months. Really hope i can visit them some day after they have gone back to their home countries.
But like my style back in Malaysia, if i don't want to talk, there is nothing anyone can do about it. This i think has caused me to have a lot less friends that i would have had. Oh well, people who know we probably expected that already. But I'm not in a rush to have a lot of friends. I like to take my time, and make really really high quality friends as i like to put it. =)
There is one last thing I'll touch on this post, however i can't really share much about it. But for the people that know about it, take it as an update on what is happening.
The last blog post was roughly the beginning of it. Over these 10 weeks, so many different things have happened. I have had ups, downs, depression bouts, joy bouts, periods of total exhaustion, and periods of extreme energy.
Soon I'll be taking a break though when i go back to Malaysia. I'm having mixed feelings at the moment, not really sure how i feel. But all I want to do now is to have faith, try my best and wait and see =)
Anyway, it is now 11.40am here. Soon those chibi (Japanese word i learned) will be calling me out for lunch so i think I'll finish this post here. Yes yes, i know, there are still 2 posts i owe you people. But this period i am really very very strained for time.
Actually la, the main reason I'm writing this post is to cheer myself up a bit. Was a bit depressed and frustrated over the past few days. Now that I'm almost done writing i feel A LOT better already.
Take care people.
Will meet those back in Malaysia real soon....
Lai Jian Wei
11.43am
18 October 2008
What about it?
That was my last blog entry.
In this period of time, some many things have happened. For one i made a lot of really great friends here already. Then at the same time, my semester is coming to an end now, i have a lot of assignments to finish as well as prepare for my finals. I am very nervous, after all I am in another country, not my own.
But the main reason for me being nervous is because of the subject I'm taking, Environmental Science. Why? Because i really really enjoy what I am learning. I really want to do well. I still remember telling my family and friends, if I am allowed to do something i really like, i will be able to excel in it. When i came over, everyone told me that i will do well. I'm now in a culture and setting that is more open to my style of study and more importantly I'm doing a topic which i truly have passion for.
Frankly, looking at how I'm coping so far, I am doing rather well. But some how i feel it is not enough. Yes, I'm getting High Distinctions (someone wants to kill me know when she finds out I'm saying this) but somehow I myself am not satisfied with my own performance. When i read my assignments and essays, i feel they nothing more than a beautiful orchestra of words that have no substance in it. Yet, when i receive it back, i get a compliment from my tutor on on a good job which i don't really feel i deserved very much.
Anyway...
On other matters, in this period my parents had also paid me a visit. For once in my life, I think I was really really happy to see them. Although I admit I'm not especially close with my parents, but seeing them for that few days really did cheer me up a lot. I guess is the reality of not having them by my side was getting to me. Initially, I would get very annoyed because i was not at home. I would want something to use (scissors for example) and suddenly realize that I was not at home and did not have them.
I think this is what they mean by becoming independent and looking after yourself. Time to grow up~~ Haha... Eh, but i must admit though, it has been a really interesting experience. I actually learned how to do a lot of shopping on my own, how to look for better products and settle issues with the bank etc. I am also very very grateful to my parents. Why? From young they made me do a lot of the things around the house and I used to be so annoyed by it. Now I am so so so so so so so so so so so so so happy because of that. I can do every chore that there is. I can even cook better than a lot of people here. =D
Coming back to friends....
I miss my darlings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss my kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss my friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok... Done screaming, now can talk adi.... I have been calling back some of my friends in Malaysia. Similarly, i have never been so happy to hear their voice and to be able to talk to them. My friends as well, damn funny la, i still remember one of them screaming "Jian Wei!!!!! So happy!!!!" and some others picking up the phone and being so polite going "Hello, may i know who is this?" which actually scared me. I never thought they could be so polite.
I miss the times that which come out and yum cha. I still have issues talking over IM and the phone la. I need to talk to people face to face to really be able to express myself. I also feel a more personal connection when talking like that. I can relate to them more. This has something to do with the body language. If i remember my number correctly, about 70 - 80% of communication is done subconsciously as body language. The rest of the communication is done by words. This is one reason i don't like to use SMS and chat to talk with people. Twice here in Australia i have upset a good friend due to misunderstanding in SMS and MSN. I'm really really sorry.... =(
Coming on to my friends in Australia, i meet some really great people. Not to mention we do a lot of silly things. Like playing computer over the college LAN network until 3am. We also have a lot of fun time debating over funny issues and talk random things. But two of them are on exchange and will be going back after this semester is over.... Feeling a bit sad thinking of it already. They have been great and wonderful friends all throughout these few months. Really hope i can visit them some day after they have gone back to their home countries.
But like my style back in Malaysia, if i don't want to talk, there is nothing anyone can do about it. This i think has caused me to have a lot less friends that i would have had. Oh well, people who know we probably expected that already. But I'm not in a rush to have a lot of friends. I like to take my time, and make really really high quality friends as i like to put it. =)
There is one last thing I'll touch on this post, however i can't really share much about it. But for the people that know about it, take it as an update on what is happening.
The last blog post was roughly the beginning of it. Over these 10 weeks, so many different things have happened. I have had ups, downs, depression bouts, joy bouts, periods of total exhaustion, and periods of extreme energy.
Soon I'll be taking a break though when i go back to Malaysia. I'm having mixed feelings at the moment, not really sure how i feel. But all I want to do now is to have faith, try my best and wait and see =)
Anyway, it is now 11.40am here. Soon those chibi (Japanese word i learned) will be calling me out for lunch so i think I'll finish this post here. Yes yes, i know, there are still 2 posts i owe you people. But this period i am really very very strained for time.
Actually la, the main reason I'm writing this post is to cheer myself up a bit. Was a bit depressed and frustrated over the past few days. Now that I'm almost done writing i feel A LOT better already.
Take care people.
Will meet those back in Malaysia real soon....
Lai Jian Wei
11.43am
18 October 2008
Thursday, July 17, 2008
My form 6 life (Part I-ii : People i met)
This is just a little part i want to add on. I suddenly remembered this other teacher i would love to mention.
I am i strong advocate of equal rights amongst men and women. Both sexes should be given equal opportunities in life doing what they please, be it a homemaker, a teacher, a soldier, a manager etc. Additionally, education and the right to socialize and and mix around as they please. Freedom to do what either sex wants in moderation.
However, i believe that both sides should preserve the traits or characteristics that make them who they are. No, i don't mean that men should always act rough and tough or women acting soft and loving. I believe that both men and women can be equally loving and tough when the situation arises.
What i mean is preserving those distinctive personality traits that each person has to be bring out the best of them from a gender point of view.
Take for example this female friend of mine. She loves to play sports, she has a strong fiery personality and would fight and argue for what she believes is right. She sometimes acts a bit too rough, a bit too tomboy-ish for my liking (note : my liking. But i still think it's fine). But on her soft side, she's a very loyal & loving girl. She will let her heart out and run to you for support.
By preserving traits, i actually mean just be yourself. Why should you always act tough when you know very well you are not? Why should you not dare to show your love and caring just because you "shouldn't"?
By learning to accept who we are, and living our lives as who WE are, this to me is the best imagine one can show, no matter whether you are a guy or a girl.
But i still believe in chivalry and "ladies first" =D
Wah... Damn far off topic, i was supposed to talk about a teacher not gender equalities. But the teacher i want to talk about is some what related to this topic.
Anyway, coming back....
This particular teacher, she is in charge of the Girls Club, the club formed to take care and manage the welfare of the girl students in the school.
She too, strongly believed in equal gender rights for girls, the emancipation of the weaker sex!!
Right...
Yes, she did do a lot of things for the girls, trying to provided them with extra privileges and also trying to protect them.
Then she implemented new rules. Rules like "girls cannot sit on the floor", "girls cannot wear short pants to sports, only track bottoms" and quite a few more rather loony ones which i can't remember. Girls girls, if you can remember the rules, can post em up for me ah?
Anyway, in her attempt to to get gender equality, i felt that she became more sexist. In more than one occasion, she certain made it very clear that she thinks most men are horrible (including her own husband, why marry him in the first place then?). Yes, i understand that she is trying to preserve modesty for this girls, but in most of her attempts, all i see her achieving is further widening the gap between men and women.
This is why i always believe that we should never push too hard for something. If we become over zealous in doing something, we will soon lose sight of reason and moderation.
In her mind, she believes she is doing the right thing. Yes i agree, she was never wrong. But maybe she just went a bit too far and a bit over protective. I don't know, but perhaps it is just me that thinks along these lines (or maybe it's over open-mindedness). But i would love to hear views on this topic.
Alright, it's officially 10.35pm in Brisbane. I'm also getting quite sleepy. The story still isn't finished yet, especially the very important part i promised I'll write for my kids. I didn't realize that once i put the story and experience down on words, it would be so long.
Anyway, goodnight and sweet dreams to all my buddies. I know it's still early over the =P Don't sleep late.
;-)
I am i strong advocate of equal rights amongst men and women. Both sexes should be given equal opportunities in life doing what they please, be it a homemaker, a teacher, a soldier, a manager etc. Additionally, education and the right to socialize and and mix around as they please. Freedom to do what either sex wants in moderation.
However, i believe that both sides should preserve the traits or characteristics that make them who they are. No, i don't mean that men should always act rough and tough or women acting soft and loving. I believe that both men and women can be equally loving and tough when the situation arises.
What i mean is preserving those distinctive personality traits that each person has to be bring out the best of them from a gender point of view.
Take for example this female friend of mine. She loves to play sports, she has a strong fiery personality and would fight and argue for what she believes is right. She sometimes acts a bit too rough, a bit too tomboy-ish for my liking (note : my liking. But i still think it's fine). But on her soft side, she's a very loyal & loving girl. She will let her heart out and run to you for support.
By preserving traits, i actually mean just be yourself. Why should you always act tough when you know very well you are not? Why should you not dare to show your love and caring just because you "shouldn't"?
By learning to accept who we are, and living our lives as who WE are, this to me is the best imagine one can show, no matter whether you are a guy or a girl.
But i still believe in chivalry and "ladies first" =D
Wah... Damn far off topic, i was supposed to talk about a teacher not gender equalities. But the teacher i want to talk about is some what related to this topic.
Anyway, coming back....
This particular teacher, she is in charge of the Girls Club, the club formed to take care and manage the welfare of the girl students in the school.
She too, strongly believed in equal gender rights for girls, the emancipation of the weaker sex!!
Right...
Yes, she did do a lot of things for the girls, trying to provided them with extra privileges and also trying to protect them.
Then she implemented new rules. Rules like "girls cannot sit on the floor", "girls cannot wear short pants to sports, only track bottoms" and quite a few more rather loony ones which i can't remember. Girls girls, if you can remember the rules, can post em up for me ah?
Anyway, in her attempt to to get gender equality, i felt that she became more sexist. In more than one occasion, she certain made it very clear that she thinks most men are horrible (including her own husband, why marry him in the first place then?). Yes, i understand that she is trying to preserve modesty for this girls, but in most of her attempts, all i see her achieving is further widening the gap between men and women.
This is why i always believe that we should never push too hard for something. If we become over zealous in doing something, we will soon lose sight of reason and moderation.
In her mind, she believes she is doing the right thing. Yes i agree, she was never wrong. But maybe she just went a bit too far and a bit over protective. I don't know, but perhaps it is just me that thinks along these lines (or maybe it's over open-mindedness). But i would love to hear views on this topic.
Alright, it's officially 10.35pm in Brisbane. I'm also getting quite sleepy. The story still isn't finished yet, especially the very important part i promised I'll write for my kids. I didn't realize that once i put the story and experience down on words, it would be so long.
Anyway, goodnight and sweet dreams to all my buddies. I know it's still early over the =P Don't sleep late.
;-)
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
A new world, A new life
Hmm... First post in this blog, but it is also most likely the last post I make in Malaysia for quite some time.
In less than 48 hours, I'll be boarding a flight off to Brisbane. Why? Going there for my tertiary education.
These last two weeks for me have been hectic and fun for me. Packing, shopping, meeting up with old friends...
Been having quite a few sleepless nights due to all the thinking, trying to come to terms with the loneliness, the things i had to put down...
But for now accompanying me on this new journey of mine are...
- Lots and lots of photos from my farewells. (my kids, my darlings, my friends, old schoolmates, classmates, family....)
- My new laptop! (beautiful beautiful VAIO~~) XD
- PAWNING camera (Canon G9)
- Ipod Nano. (Gift from my brother, badly scratched though >.<)
- My trusted Nokia 6260 (please don't die, i love you very much), although i might decide to get another phone before i go
- Lotsa medicine... (For people that don't understand why, i'm pretty lazy to explain =P)
- My clothes (duh~~), there's a SMKBBSP shirt (SMKBBSP Cemerlang Gemilang!!), all the shirts i received as gifts, limited edition ones as well as normal ones.
- A Jalur Gemilang (O.o haven't packed this in yet, still thinking if i will just pack a small one or a big one along with it)
- Trusty old Tupperware, water tumbler and chopsticks
- And of cause... All the wishes from everyone ;)
Many people say I'm lucky, i agree.
Many people say I'm brave, i also agree.
Of cause I'm lucky, not many people get the chance to go abroad to study, for this I'm extremely grateful to my parents.
Brave though, I'm not that sure actually. To tell the truth, i have many worries on my mind. Most which i will share as i continue down this path of mine.
On this post however, i must make this special effort to these few people :
Well, i think that's all i want to write for now. For some details of prior to this post, feel free to go here and have a look.
About my University and course, I'll post about them once i have actually experienced it. And well... I'm not sure what to expect honestly, a lot of things playing on my mind.
p/s : To everyone right, take care and all the best. I may be going far far away but that doesn't mean i have forgotten you all or have stopped caring. My Digi number will be brought over with me. Feel free to SMS me (don't worry, you are charged with the normal rates of SMS to Digi) with any problems or email me if you need me. I promise i will respond with, well, my "Jian Wei" type of advice and patience. Haha...
Lai Jian Wei
12.38AM
Tuesday, July 8 2008
In less than 48 hours, I'll be boarding a flight off to Brisbane. Why? Going there for my tertiary education.
These last two weeks for me have been hectic and fun for me. Packing, shopping, meeting up with old friends...
Been having quite a few sleepless nights due to all the thinking, trying to come to terms with the loneliness, the things i had to put down...
But for now accompanying me on this new journey of mine are...
- Lots and lots of photos from my farewells. (my kids, my darlings, my friends, old schoolmates, classmates, family....)
- My new laptop! (beautiful beautiful VAIO~~) XD
- PAWNING camera (Canon G9)
- Ipod Nano. (Gift from my brother, badly scratched though >.<)
- My trusted Nokia 6260 (please don't die, i love you very much), although i might decide to get another phone before i go
- Lotsa medicine... (For people that don't understand why, i'm pretty lazy to explain =P)
- My clothes (duh~~), there's a SMKBBSP shirt (SMKBBSP Cemerlang Gemilang!!), all the shirts i received as gifts, limited edition ones as well as normal ones.
- A Jalur Gemilang (O.o haven't packed this in yet, still thinking if i will just pack a small one or a big one along with it)
- Trusty old Tupperware, water tumbler and chopsticks
- And of cause... All the wishes from everyone ;)
Many people say I'm lucky, i agree.
Many people say I'm brave, i also agree.
Of cause I'm lucky, not many people get the chance to go abroad to study, for this I'm extremely grateful to my parents.
Brave though, I'm not that sure actually. To tell the truth, i have many worries on my mind. Most which i will share as i continue down this path of mine.
On this post however, i must make this special effort to these few people :
- The first is Wai Yen from IDP Subang Jaya, for all the effort and care in helping me with all the arrangements for my studies in Australia. Thank you very very much, without you i would have had A LOT more trouble in my arrangements
- Next is my Granduncle Joseph and Grandaunty Vivienne in Brisbane for taking so much concern towards me as well as providing me with a lot of useful information about Brisbane.
- Last of all is my Ah Yee in UK who has been very diligently following my progress in these few months.
Well, i think that's all i want to write for now. For some details of prior to this post, feel free to go here and have a look.
About my University and course, I'll post about them once i have actually experienced it. And well... I'm not sure what to expect honestly, a lot of things playing on my mind.
p/s : To everyone right, take care and all the best. I may be going far far away but that doesn't mean i have forgotten you all or have stopped caring. My Digi number will be brought over with me. Feel free to SMS me (don't worry, you are charged with the normal rates of SMS to Digi) with any problems or email me if you need me. I promise i will respond with, well, my "Jian Wei" type of advice and patience. Haha...
Lai Jian Wei
12.38AM
Tuesday, July 8 2008
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